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I’ve never resonated with anything more in my entire life 😅

Fight it brothers and sisters. It's so satisfying to let go! They aren't going anywhere ❤

Holy shit, this is the actual things my ex said. I made the right choice.

When u meet the avoidant=RUN!!!

Yeah... sounds like me.

I feel attacked

That become better :(

this isn't true at all

So accurate of my avoidant partner

If she's admitting all of this and making no effort to heal - run!

He finally told me he loved me.. then the next day he came over to meet my family.. then i never heard from him again 🙄😮‍💨

If I'm afraid of hurting someone because I don't trust myself, does that make me fearful-avoidant? 😢

wow if you didn't ask it before, I bet You'll be asking now

Perfect

I have just asked my avoidant partner to be my girlfriend and she is so cold and I think I might already regret it. It’s so hard and sends me mad, should I continue to be patient or just leave now ?

Hi, i'm from peru xd

i realised this way too late, now he likes someone else haha

God damnit. The feeling distant shit triggered me. I ONLY FEEL DISTANT BECAUSE *YOU* HAVE YOUR WALLS UP!

Well, edgy. Maybe just see a therapist and stop hurting people around you.

lm anxious my ??bf?? is avoidant. l don't seek reassurance from him (learned from past failures to not do that) and he stays distant. We haven't had an arguement because having one would mean we're in a relationship and with every passing day l become sure that we never will be. Cant live on breadcrumbs.

U must know my bf... Well he won't even admit he's my bf!

This is so sad 😢❤️‍🩹

Meet a girl with avoidant. She projected, love bombed, banged 3 times, then went back to her husband. Whole thing was over in a month.

That sounds more like anxious than fearful avoidant…

They are coverts 🤷🏿

😅😅 avoidant

“….and I just want to get out of there as fast as I can, or maybe I’ll freeze”

I won’t text because they won’t want to hear from me anyway, and I don’t want to annoy them. Texting everyday for days on end is also very uncomfortable. What is wrong with you that you need to talk every day? Why would you want to talk to me? You’re just going to get sick of me sooner and I like you, so let’s just pace this out.

This is literally ME.

"Im willing to ignore my needs just to not be a burden and make you happy but I will also resent you for it but will never voice because I dont want you to abandon me..."

You make that work when they cheat, cause you to want to break up or reverse discard. Sounds like a toxic dkfk to me

Just gotten blocked by what I reckon is an avoidant 😔 question … do avoidants feel uncomfortable getting compliments??

Its impossible to have a healthy relationship with an avoidant of any kind. There i said it. Avoid them once you see who they are.

This comparison is irresponsible and hateful. Avoidants have unresolved childhood trauma and were frequently abused by their parents during their formative years. They have a literally damaged attachment style. Narcissism is an actual personality disorder diagnosis and has nothing to do with that.

Dismissive avoidant are not bad people and they are not cruel and cold either. They are damaged, that doesn't mean we don't deserve to be loved

open communication is key

LMAO WHO RECORDED ME IN MY ROOM??

I had a secure attachment style until spending 9 months with an avoidant, I turned anxious. I, in the end realized the pattern and its not healthy anymore, that is why I stepped back build boundary and verbalized my need to my ex. I was trying to regain myself, when I did offer my ex friendship and suggested we work on ourselves and heal.. she lashed out bigtime.

Avoidant people want closeness as much as anyone, but their comfort level means that intimacy and space/privacy go together, especially when you're figuring each other out. It isnt always about closing the gap, it's about finding ways to be on the same team and be intimate comfortably... The most essential skill for avoidant imho is Follow Up Checkins. Basically saying "hey i wasnt ready earlier but i want to talk about it now. I noticed myself having x experience, wbu?" Its ok to not be ready, it just means the ball is in your court now. gotta reciprocate somehow or the other person stops waiting.

Tbh I think I’ll just give up on having any relationships at all. I don’t even think I really want anything to deal with people

Being independent when you’re single doesn’t make you stop being anxious lol. That person will return to the exact same clingy behavior when their attachment system is activated again.

Oh my gosh we were planning our first night together five days later gone - like resigned from job and left the state. I am the anxious type so I consciously said come over the night it works for you they didn't even stop to say goodbye.

Why is this me

Literally me cause like i give my brother my food,money and attention but he doesn't give them in return so i get sad :(

if you get coldshoulder for weeks for no obvios reason, if they do nothing to better themselves, it does not matter what kind of label you put on the other person.

Da is heart and mind crusher for anxious. This kind of behavior i mean DA is ridiculous behavior seeing it as secure one. Its pain mixed with nonsense

The only thing missing is if she rejects me, I don't want to start this process all over again. It was hard enough for me to open up to this person.

True 😂😂😂😂❤❤❤❤🎉😊

OMG i went through this exact scenario with her then she broke up with me

This woman clearly doesn't get it.